Jackee Ashwin shares her story of losing one son to forced adoption, another to stillbirth
Author announces debut memoir, ‘Relinquished, Returned, Rejected’
BRISBANE, Australia – From 1950 to 1980, thousands of newborn children in Australia were taken from their mothers simply because the women were unwed. The children were placed with other families, and the mothers were ridiculed and shamed. In “Relinquished, Returned, Rejected” (published by Balboa Press AU), Jackee Ashwin tells her personal story of hiding the shame of her teenage pregnancy, the adoption and the guilt that accompanied her throughout her life. She also shares the heartache of stillbirth.
After meeting her adopted son in 2012, Ashwin was compelled to share her experience. “I have a desperate need for birth mothers, fathers and adopted children to read my story should they be considering contacting their birth parent or child,” she explains. “I want them to know both sides of the coin and the potential disaster should the reunion not be handled correctly.”
Facing the loss of her sons to adoption and stillbirth and a marital breakdown, Ashwin describes the mental resilience that saw her through. Her story is one of heartbreak and loss, but also one of determination and joy.
Her hope is that those considering giving a child up for adoption and prospective adoptees will be able to see the decision from both perspectives and come to a greater understanding of how best to handle a potential reunion between birth-mother and child. She also hopes to reach mothers who have experienced stillbirth to show them that they can overcome the darkness and move forward “little by little in small positive steps.”
“Relinquished, Returned, Rejected”
By Jackee Ashwin
Softcover | 5 x 8 in | 212 pages | ISBN 9781452531717
E-Book | 212 pages | ISBN 9781452531724
Available at Amazon and Barnes & Noble
About the Author
In 1974, Jackee Ashwin relinquished her baby boy as part of the adoption process in Australia during that era. In 1983, she lost her other son to stillbirth. Rebuilding her life after these incidents, she was reunited with her son in 2012 after he found her online. Ashwin’s ambition is to help every birth-parent who willingly or unwillingly gave up a child for adoption and who may be contemplating finding their child. She lives in Brisbane, Australia, with her husband. More information can be found at: www.jackeeashwin.com.